Monday, January 21, 2013

Beyond January: New Years resolutions part 2

If you missed it, below is the link to part 1
Beyond January, New years resolutions part 1

So we are past the middle of January nearing February. So many new years resolutions have come and gone. It began with a desire to change. How do you move beyond the desire to actually making the changes? Maybe you have started the change. How do you keep the momentum going?

For me I have to say that I hate goal setting. Sitting down and saying to myself "OK what do I want to accomplish, and what do I have to do daily to get there" is way over the top for me. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of gal. Planning and then following through are not my strong points. Those people that plan out everything in life make me crazy. I see it is important, I am trying, but really do I need to write it all down?  I have been to classes, I have listened to seminars, I have read the books. They all seem the same. Write it down, make a plan, break the big goal into daily chunks, put these on your daily to do list. Follow the list etc.  So I did it this year. I made goals and wrote it out into a daily list.

Now I have it all on my"official to do list".  Yuck!!  I feel trapped and bogged down by this infernal list. I know I need to do it, and now I have written it down. I feel pressure to do it. Such drudgery, I can't live like this. I've done it for  over a week, but it sucks!  So, back to the mental list of things I should do. There is not a  physical list weighing me down staring me in the face. I know what I need to do each day (it is all there on my mental list)  Somehow there is always something that sounds much better than those things on the list. There are many things that get pushed down the bottom of the pile, someday I will get to it but not today. (any of this sound familiar yet).

I have found that the physical list of things to do everyday does nothing for me only make me very angry and depressed. Some people love to have that  list and love to check things off, they thrive on it. Yeah for you if you have found this works for you. This is not me. I am a bit more like my son. I thrive on a challenge. This year I am done with the "to do list" way of goal setting and planning. I am trying a new approach. The challenge! I have a list of things that I am challenging myself to accomplish. Somehow if I challenge myself to get it done and take it off that stupid to do list and I get excited about actually accomplishing it.

For the next month
#1 The challenge is to do 30 minutes of Yoga every day.
#2  The challenge is also to do a 30 minute workout daily.
#3 As for my eating, choose a fruit or vegetable for my snack.
#4 It is a challenge to find 10 minutes for me to read everyday but I am doing it.
#5 develop better relationships by being a better friend. One project a month (for example I called a friend and invited her over for lunch last week) 


Give me a challenge. Tell me that I can't accomplish it. I will prove you wrong.
This attitude has prevailed in my life. When I have accomplished things, it has been because others have told me that I couldn't do it. I turned it around this year and challenged myself. It has empowered me. It has created new energy and a fire that I think will carry my goals forward into the future.  A change of attitude made all the difference this year.



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